P.S.-Pooh Says...

"What day is it? - 'It's today' - squeaked Piglet. 'My favourite day' - said Pooh."- A.A. Milne

16 June 2019

On Which I Stand-Father's Day 2019

 “She did not stand alone, but what stood behind her, the most potent moral force in her life, was the love of her father." ~Harper Lee

 There was a time I ran from this day, as far as I could.  A day filled with memories so strong that 29 years later I can still be sent back in a flash to all those big family Father's Day cook-outs, in all types of weather...the piles of gifts left in front of my Papa who preferred to have all his grandchildren around him rather than packages and left the presents for Nana to open, the clumsily wrapped cans of tennis balls and Izod polos that populated Daddy's stack of gifts...  Yes, this is yet another Hallmark day. A day designed for card sellers and tie makers.  Of course we should celebrate Dads beyond a Sunday in June, but to have a day set aside on the calendar to stop and hug the man or the memories I have to come to feel is a good thing.

  No, it does not get easier with time.  Loss leaves craters in your life.  Though they can never be filled, and will never be closed, if you have been enveloped with love the holes are softer to look into and can bring both strength and joy.

  This Father's Day weekend may not be my first without Daddy, but like every year at this time I try to keep the mascara from going by hugging the memories and re-opening his many gifts to me.  Gifts that I carry with me every day and always will.  Gifts that are sewn into the core of my soul and especially my heart. Gifts that have given me an umbrella policy for life, a firm footing even when it feels as if the the universe  has sent me into orbit on my own.

Being a daddy’s girl is like having a permanent armor for the rest of your life.”
~Marinela Ranka 

 I proudly say I am a "Daddy's Girl". There are a lot of negative connotations with that phrase...spoiled, Princess, indulged...not ususally words you label someone who has always been a Feminist...but for me the phrase symbolizes not only the unbreakable bond between a Father and Daughter but also the foundation upon which I stand... every day. The insurance, and assurance, that believing in myself,as Daddy believed in me, will get me through and propel me forward.

"Run your own race,baby. He could have said it a dozen other ways. “Be independent.” “Don’t be influenced by others.” But it wouldn’t have been the same. The words he chose touched my heart and have remained with me all through my life. Whenever I’m at a crossroads, I ask myself, 
“Am I running my race or somebody else’s?"
What a gift he gave me."

We lost my Dad suddenly. After the shock wore off, and the numbness set in, I felt as if I was living without a safety net, free falling-I still have a whole lot of days I feel that way. It took some time to realize that Daddy had left me the biggest net of all- the knowledge that I do have solid ground beneath my feet at all times, because of the lessons he taught me: be yourself, stand for what you believe, laugh no matter what, show them how it's done!, know you tried your best, believe in who you are!  These lessons helped to build my base, grow the roots that sprout from my feet and created my own terra firma, composed of all the love that I was graced to be given. 

  How very lucky I am to know that being a “Daddy’s Girl” means that I carry the extraordinary gift of unconditional love with me wherever life takes me. That love has taught me to believe in myself and my strengths, and to know that I CAN “run my own race”- even when I have trouble finding the track. My Father taught me to trust my instincts, believe that there is nothing I can’t accomplish and that the worst thing I could do would be to give up, pass on an opportunity or to sit on the sidelines and never try! I think the only instances that Daddy was really upset and angry with me is when I gave up, ran home, didn't try.

Still on the days when I think…”There is NO way I can do this!” or "What do I do next" I hear Daddy saying “Just Try”.  Happy Father’s Day Daddy…Thank you for my many gifts. Oh how I wish you were here to watch me run my own crazy race,especially when I run the other way :) I love you today and everyday!

13 May 2019

We Will Always Need the Joy of Doris!

"I like joy; I want to be joyous; I want to have fun on the set; I want to wear beautiful clothes and look pretty. I want to smile, and I want to make people laugh. And that's all I want. I like it. I like being happy. I want to make others happy. " ~Doris Day

In a world turned inside out and upside down, when we cannot believe the swirl of insanity around us, I tune out and flip on a good old fashioned feel good happy movie-it works, trust me! and the perfect make you smile movie is always a Doris film!  

Talent, style, joy, compassion... sparkled from every inch of Doris Day! She owned the screen with her smile and her comic flare, and directors always found a slot in her films for her to sing too...and did I mention her clothes!! Doris Day could own a film with just a song and a laugh, but her talents were so much more and no other Hollywood actress brought to a film what Doris did-joy!! Go watch That Touch of Mink or Please Don't Eat The Daisies,or...any Doris movie, and celebrate the gift that was Doris Day! 

12 May 2019

The Record that Never Gets Old-Happy Mother's Day!

via AmyHeitman

"Motherhood: All love begins and ends there." ~ Robert Browning
" Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly." ~Ambrose Bierce

Let's just acknowledge from the start, much like Peter Rabbit we never listened to our Mothers very well...not with our ears anyway. 

Momspeak after so many years became the true Muzak of our lives. "Why are you wearing that?" is the hit single we can all dance to-But I promise you Moms, we may not have listened...but we heard...every word! 
How else do we grow up to sound just like you??

I consider myself to be a pretty independent woman....known for my strong will with my own opinions and vision of the world. Yes, even headstrong and truly stubborn at times.  "My Way" or "Don't Rain on My Parade"could be my personal anthems...but there are in fact other voices in my head...an endless playlist of Dos and Don'ts, How Comes and Why Nots, rights and wrongs... from which shoes to wear, to how to fold a bedsheet, roast a chicken or walk into a crowd-the voices on my playlist will show the way. That Playlist recording comes straight from the my Mom's hit parade

"My most important title is ‘mom-in-chief’. My daughters are still the heart of my heart and the centre of my world." - Michelle Obama, Former First Lady

 No matter what else a Mom does with her life her JOB is her children. For our Moms our "end result" is the product of their career, their life's work...so of course we have been asked to get it right!! Our success is their success and for more than one generation of women that reflected "glory" or "failure" defined the women who raised us. We are the personification of their life's work-if we messed up...well, for them so did they. I may have my days when I wonder if I will ever do it right, get it right, but I am a woman who cares a great deal about doing it right,and getting it right, because I was taught by the women whose thumbprints are all over me that it matters. Sure, I have picked my rebellions to drive them nuts...I never learned how to properly fold that bed sheet which drove my Nana up a tree. I consistently neglect to wear a raincoat on a potentially rainy day leading my Mother to exclaim that I truly don't know when to come out of the rain.

I have to come to realize,however,that I am put together not with a selfishness or interest in making her mark, but with a complete commitment to her job. She is a Mom, this is what she does. Despite many other roles and abilities, being a Mom is who she is with every inch of her being..and the root of all of this is love.

If I can stand back and look at the woman who raised me with any objectivity I will see that not every woman who wears the label Mother does it so completely. It isn't that other Mothers don't love their children, or that they didn't do a good job, but that somewhere along the growing up line they declared an end game. OK, so a professional might say that is healthy-forget it! Maybe I can't see how it is possible to "retire" from the most important job any human can have because my Mother, and her Mother before her, never put their feet up on the job-thank goodness! Even though my Grandmother is no longer here she would be happy to know that the Muzak she implanted in both her daughter and in me plays everyday! WWND?-What Would Nana Do? makes us smile,laugh and remember. By some string that will always connect us we do it her way, with our own twist, but Nana is in the building!  How lucky I am -I got stereo! There is my Nana's Muzak and there is my Mother's- not surprisingly very similar tunes.

Of course it is not just the "do it my way" tunes that I hear each day but more profoundly the emotional songs that have taken root from the bottom of my feet. These roots come from knowing without any hesitation or embarrassment that I keep playing those tunes because I need to hear the noise. I need the voice of the person who loves me no matter what! I may not always get it right but there is no auditioning here. Even when the raincoat is in the car keeping the car dry, I know that if I get wet there is shelter available.

I also have the innate comfort that my Mom's job is far from done-her daughter is a product in development and will continue to be, as Anna Quindlen wrote-"A finished person is a boring person." I'm not finished, and only a person who does not need to be loved, does not hear the Muzak or recognize the thumbprints, can be finished.

If you are lucky in this life the bond with your Mom is the simplest, and many times the most complicated, one you will ever have. I am THAT lucky! There is nothing simpler than being loved completely and knowing that her love sustains , motivates and grounds you. The string that runs from Mom to child is the most powerful and lasting connection there will ever be. We may walk through different doors sometimes but we are usually going in the same direction... together! (much like the time we discovered we were in adjacent dressing rooms in Bloomingdales!)

The definition of a Mom cannot be found in a Hallmark card, in an ad for cake mix, or on a rerun of a 70s sitcom. A Mom is defined by her life's work. She can be a Supreme Court Justice or a candidate for President, her Momdom is at the core of everything she does. Her success is not found in material success but in the knowledge that there is a perpetual work in progress out there that will always hear her music, always need her tune to be played, and always love her.

 Don't go into Mr. McGregor's garden: your Father had an accident there; he was put in a pie by Mrs. McGregor. The Tale of Peter Rabbit

 Happy Mother's Day Mummy...job well done,but never finished! I love you!

24 February 2019

Magical Movie Maker-RIP Stanley Donen

 There is something forever elegant, magical, charming and always marvelous about a #StanleyDonen film. He changed the movie musical with his innovation and distinctive style and his list of iconic films will leave you curled up with popcorn and a smile for days...
On the Town, Royal Wedding, Singing in the Rain, Funny Face, Indiscreet, Charade,Two for the Road...all on my Best List! yet he was never nominated for an Oscar, 
think of that on #Oscars night! RIP 

What I got, unconsciously, from admiring Fred Astaire was that he didn't want what he was doing to look difficult. What was difficult, in my opinion, was making it look so genuine, so effortless. I equally have tried to remain unseen on the screen.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/stanley_donen
 "What I got, unconsciously, from admiring Fred Astaire was that he didn't want what he was doing to look difficult. What was difficult, in my opinion, was making it look so genuine, so effortless. 
I equally have tried to remain unseen on the screen." Stanley Donen
from admiring Fred Astaire was that he didn't want what he was doing to look difficult. What was difficult, in my opinion, was making it look so genuine, so effortless. I equally have tried to remain unseen on the screen.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/stanley_donen
from admiring Fred Astaire was that he didn't want what he was doing to look difficult. What was difficult, in my opinion, was making it look so genuine, so effortless. I equally have tried to remain unseen on the screen.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/stanley_donen
from admiring Fred Astaire was that he didn't want what he was doing to look difficult. What was difficult, in my opinion, was making it look so genuine, so effortless. I equally have tried to remain unseen on the screen.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/stanley_donen

16 December 2018

What Was Wrong with My Princess Phone?

(Audrey Hepburn by Mark Shaw)
Is there ANYTHING more annoying, short of car shopping, than buying a new phone!? I would rather sit in a dentist's chair.

Here in my opinion is what a phone should do...You dial my number, my phone rings, I answer it...we talk!  REALLY Simple!  Been working well since about 1876.  

Here is what a phone SHOULD NOT do-it should not keep me up til 2:30 in the morning trying to figure out how to stop the annoying beeps it makes...it should NOT dance, sing, whistle, show me cute pictures of kittens, refuse to let me answer a call or at any point YELL at me!  Can you tell I bought a new phone!
(Get Smart)
Honestly, I'm not being a dinosaur here! I NEED my phone and I actually need my phone to deliver more than a conversation.  I gave up having a land line years ago so this little annoying piece of equipment- with no wires except when charging which it seems to need every 5 minutes- has in fact become for most of us not only a phone but also my traveling office.  
(Audrey Hepburn,Charade)

 At last count I have no fewer than 10 email boxes that need to be checked and "on my old phone" there they were with mail flying in all day everyday 365 days a year. I don't ask a lot of a phone--I need my emails to arrive in real time and when the phone rings there should be an easy way to answer it.

(Grace Kelly)
But this new thing...I cannot even find the answer button!!! I am an educated, sophisticated, capable woman...How did this happen? Why am I so reliant on a piece of cold metal that  doesn't even know how to knit, I know how to knit! HA! Take that foolish phone! I used to have a sweet little pink phone in my bedroom growing up--you picked it up there was a dialtone you dialed and off you went...Seriously, I'm going to look for it but it won't fit in my bag.

(Doris Day, Pillow Talk)
OK so the cords could go, and speed dialing and voicemail are good, but really do I need a $950 phone with a 2 year contract and a $60 case and...Really??!!! They saw me coming!  No, really they saw me coming! I envy Wilma's phone.
(Wilma Flintstone)
The smart phone world moves really fast-sort of like the second you drive a new car off the lot it loses half its value... with a new smart phone when you wake up the next morning there are 6 new ones all better than the one you haven't even learned how to use yet.

Change is tough- especially when you can use your phone literally in your sleep and never even have to look at where you are tapping...but even I had to admit it was time for a new phone. 

 (Betty Rubble)
I love my old Blackberry Buddy, knowing full well "NO ONE" -or so I have been told-uses a Blackberry anymore. (Hey, I still have AOL accounts so don't start with me!) It sort of became embarrassing, like wearing things from WAY back in the closet.  Yes I was tempted by all the bright shiny new thing at the phone store and that my friends use.  Thin, slim, light, sleek and big screens sparkled at me...but...
At this point I miss my pink silicone covered dinosaur, the one I have nearly thrown in the trash with frustration over the past months as it died again,and again, and again... I feel like Andy in "Toy Story" who tossed his best buddy Woody away when the new toy with the blinking lights came along.  Sure, I want a new phone,  but I need a reliable friend who will do what I ask when I ask over any Buzz Lightyear.   By the end of the day my BB (Blackberry Buddy) was back home with me!  and there is the promise of "...another new phone coming out in just a week or so that might work better for you Maam..." on the horizon.   So in another couple of weeks I get to do this all over again!  They said they  would call me and let me know ! :)

05 December 2018

How Marvelous!

She's Back!  How Marvelous!  Just what we need right now ...a smart, funny woman who is ready to Stand Up! and take on the world, all while dressed in the most amazing wardrobe!  Show 'em how it's done Midge! Cannot wait  to spend time smiling, laughing, crying, singing...with @MaiselTV @amazonprimevideo  #TheMarvelousMrsMaisel #MrsMaisel  #StandingOvation #TaketheMic  #WantthatWardrobe #DoitinHeels #Marvelous #DontforgettheBrisket #ThisGirlCan

06 November 2018

Yes! It Matters-Go VOTE!

            “Someone struggled for your right to vote. Use it.”     ~Susan B. Anthony

Confession, I admit it-for the majority of  my voting life I did not vote.  I didn't believe I could make a difference.  I didn't think it mattered. I didn't believe in the process. I didn't like who was running.  I didn't think voting in my state changed anything...I didn't vote. I grew up in post-Watergate America and that framed my political socialization.  Then I grew up!  I realized what we all have to see, what my Father tried to tell me for years, if you don't participate don't complain!...and now I live in a country that frightens me more everyday.  So I can hide under the covers, or I can get up off the couch as Barack told us, and VOTE! 
Hope you do the same.

 “One of the penalties for refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.” ~Plato

31 October 2018

Only Best Witches

'Tis That Day...It is time to Choose!

Good Witch???  Bad Witch????  Best Witch!

WITCH will it Be??

So, Are you a Good Witch or a Bad Witch??  

Well...we ALL have our moments don't we!!??

"A person should choose a costume 
that contrasts her own personality."-Lucy Van Pelt

Too many Bad Hair Days! and my morning  "Mirror Mirror on the Wall" have gone a long way toward confirming my next career move-Haunting Houses!
Bette Midler, Hocus Pocus
Too many Bad Hair Days! and my morning  "Mirror Mirror on the Wall" have gone a long way toward confirming my next career move-Haunting Houses!
Oh for a Magic Wand or a Broomstick that will take me through the stars...
If ever there was a time  for a Good Witch it is now! A twitch of my nose and all would be well with the world.

So,this Halloween since I can't wave a wand, I want to celebrate some of my very favorite Good Witches...

... if I am going to be a Witch I might as well look to a few role models who with a twitch of a nose,a wave of a wand or a ride on a vacuum cleaner ( like The Wednesday Witch) Make it Work!

Lena Horne, Glinda The Wiz
Hermione,Harry Potter
Veronica Lake, I Married a Witch
...and certainly I will need  to dress the part...Givenchy would  work! 

 If Good Witching is in the cards for me then why not take a wand from the Best Witches...

After all...

Best Witches to all!